Love Poem: I Never Knew

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Great Things Can Come Out Of Bad Situations

Photo Credit: Nicole Mondestin Photography

It has been a while since I last posted. During my hiatus, I have faced and overcome many challenges from changing jobs, finding a new place to live, and getting rid of toxic friends and relationships that were not benefiting my life.

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Why Women Shouldn’t Focus Too Much On The Perfect Engagement Ring

Why women shouldn't focus too much on the perfect engagement ring

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The other day, I spoke to one of my male friends about why he hasn’t gotten married yet, when he has been with his girlfriend for quite some time. He shared with me the main reason for this. I found the conversation to be illuminating.                           

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Black Men Who Suffer From The “B.M.B. Syndrome”

BMB Syndrome

I have dated black men, where my overall experience of dating them has not been positive.

The reason for this has been because the black men whom I have dated seemed to be suffering from a syndrome, I like to refer to as, “B.M.B.” or “Black Man Bullshit.”

How do you diagnose the B.M.B.” syndrome? You might ask… well, a few of the signs are as follows:

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What It Really Means To Be Married

What it really means to be married“You know what getting married is? It’s agreeing to taking this person who right now is at the top of his form, full of hopes and ideas, feeling good, looking good, wildly interested in you because you’re the same way, and sticking by him while he slowly disintegrates. And he does the same for you. You’re his responsibility now and he’s yours. If no one else will take care of him, you will. If everyone else rejects you, he won’t. What do you think love is? Going to bed all the time?”-Jane Smiley

While reading, ‘A word a day’ that is emailed to me by wordsmith.org, I came across the above quotation, in a section of that email, referred to as, ‘thought of the day.’ I reread the words of Jane Smiley over and over. I was not familiar with this particular writer at the time. But her words were so profound to me. I had never looked at marriage the way Jane Smiley did.

I am not married, but I do hope to be one day.

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Successful Women Should Be Celebrated

 

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In my experience of dating, I have learned that there are a lot of men who just cannot handle being with a successful woman.

I met a guy, a few years ago, while on my way to a friend’s house. We exchanged numbers, and a couple of days later, we had a phone conversation. He told me that he was a construction worker. His highest form of education was high school, and that he shared an apartment with a roommate.

At the time, I worked as a Sales Executive at a publishing company, which I had conveyed to him. Also, I told him that I had earned an associate degree in Business,  was currently working on a bachelor’s degree in Communication, and that I live alone.

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