Don’t Be A Fool In Your Relationship

Family couple relationships crisis difficulties

There is a thin line between being patient and being a fool in your relationship.

Too often, we find ourselves afraid to really articulate what it is that we desire out of a relationship because we are too concerned with not wanting to scare that special someone off. So we seclude our feelings, and hope that our partner will figure out, on his or her own, what it is that we require.

However, when a good amount of time has elapsed, we typically become upset with our partner for not being able to read our minds, when our needs have not been met. And rather than look at our role in the situation, we end up blaming our partner for our own unhappiness.

This problem can be rectified through learning to engage in dialogue with our partner, as soon as, we feel that things are not going in the direction, in which we hoped they would. Because you don’t want to find yourself dating someone for several years, and still not getting what you want out of the relationship.

If there is one thing I’ve learned, after finding myself in dead-end relationships for several years, is that people will only treat you the way you allow them to treat you.

I allowed myself to let others decide the course of my own happiness, which added up to very little. My ex-boyfriends were happy living their lives as they saw fit, regardless of what I needed out of the relationship.

I had always believed in reciprocity. Therefore, if I gave my man what he needed, he would give me what I needed.  However, it didn’t work out that way. The more I gave, the less in return I received. And for the longest time, this cycle repeated itself.

I had more faith in believing that my boyfriend, at the time, would reciprocate the love and affection that I gave him, than me having enough faith in myself, to believe that when you are with the right person, love and affection comes naturally to you.

With that said, know your self-worth, and don’t settle for less.

We can do badly all by ourselves.

 

 

 

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About Nyki Edwinna

She is the author of Mental Orgasms, and the founder/CEO of the communications company, Words From A New York Writer, LLC. She writes poetry, short stories, articles and inspirational quotes. Moreover, Nyki Edwinna is the owner of an online store that caters to poets, writers and artists.

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