We Have Nothing – Woman On Top (Part 13)


We have nothing

(text conversation with an ex-boyfriend whom I had dated for several years, but I eventually broke up with him because our relationship never progressed to marriage).

He said: “…I know you still love me…” 

[Read more…]

The Act Of Trying – Woman On Top (Part 12)


Upset couple sitting on bed separately

(face-to-face conversation with an on-again/off-again boyfriend, at the time).

I said: “…This relationship isn’t working. You don’t treat me well…”

[Read more…]

Jerk – Woman On Top (Part 11)



(first and only date)

He said: “You barely drink. You don’t eat red. You don’t smoke. Tell me something else about yourself, so I won’t think you’re completely boring…”

[Read more…]

Fortune Teller – Woman On Top (part 10)


Fortune Teller

(conversation with a boyfriend at the time, over dinner).

He said: “…I don’t want to be with you anymore. Someone else has caught my attention…”

(void of emotion, I remained silent, for quite some time, after he was done speaking. Eventually, he asked, are you okay?)

[Read more…]

Standards – Woman On Top (part 9)



(first and only date)

He said: “…I’m sure that you’re still single ‘cause you set your standards too high.”

(that statement was said to me in the first few minutes of our date, without this guy having an in-depth conversation with me, before passing judgment).

[Read more…]

Heart Breaker – Woman On Top (part 8)


Surprise flowers

(conversation with an ex-boyfriend who decided to give me a surprise visit, after he had broken my heart, one year earlier).

He said: “…It’s been a while since I’ve last seen your face. How have you been?”

[Read more…]

A Fantasy State Of Mind – Woman On Top (part 7)


Fantasy state of mind

(this conversation with a boyfriend, ultimately caused the demise of our relationship).


He said: “…Only discuss with me, important topics like babies or marriage. Otherwise, don’t talk about any of my behavior that might bother you. Just brush it off your shoulder. I don’t want to be stressed…”

[Read more…]

Black Beauty – Woman On Top (part 6)


Black Beauty

(conversation with a guy whom I was crushing on, until I discovered he was a womanizer as I discussion progressed more and more).


He said: “…More black men should praise the black woman’s beauty because if black men don’t, who will?…”

[Read more…]

Let’s Talk About Compromising – Woman On Top (part 5)


Let's talk about compromising

(face- to- face conversation with a guy, I quickly lost interest in, after this discussion).

He said:  “…I don’t compromise in a relationship. I would be sacrificing my power and my independence if I did…”

[Read more…]

Please Me, If You Can – Woman On Top (part 4)


Please me, if you can

(face-to-face conversation with an egotistical boyfriend, at the time, who displayed passive-aggressive behavior toward me after this discussion, which ultimately caused our relationship to end. He could deliver insults at lightning speed, but he did not take them well in return).

He said: “…I should not have to ask for sex.  It should just be given to me…”

[Read more…]